1.13.2013

New Years Resolutions

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This post might seem a little belated, but I really don't think about resolutions until the new year begins. I like to end every year with a bang (especially 2012 - we survived the Apocalypse!), and then spend the first week or two reflecting on the previous year, myself, and what changes I want to make. So, pardon me for getting a little personal, but I'm laying it all out there this year. Here are my 8 resolutions for 2013. I hope it's a great year - not only for me - but for all of you too!


1. Be more adventurous.

I'll be the first one to admit that my husband and I spend way too much time indoors. This weekend we watched a few movies, some pretty intense football games (Kaepernick is not human) and indulged in a little vino and home-cooking. Which, don't get me wrong, is totally acceptable and needed every once in a while. But we're both 26 years old. And as I was getting ready for bed last night I thought to myself - "when we're 46 and dealing with teenagers, we're going to wonder why the hell we didn't take advantage of our twenties."

As some of you may know, we relocated to Dallas just two short months ago, and aside from being extremely busy work-wise and holiday traveling-wise, we haven't truly "met" Dallas. I want to know everything about this city. Every restaurant, every bar, every museum and all of the wonderful people. Notice I didn't say shopping mall? Yeah, already got that covered. But there really is something powerful and exciting about moving to a new city and literally not knowing anyone. It really makes you want to put yourself out there and be the best version of yourself that you can be. And in a city as amazing as Dallas is, it should be a downright treat to have this opportunity.

So, in 2013 I want to go wherever the wind takes me. I don't want to cancel plans because I'm feeling a little under the weather. Or turn down a chance to go a concert because I really want to buy these pink shoes. Or even pass on going to a cool new bar because it's 10 o' clock on a Friday night and I'm kind of tired. No more excuses this year. I want to go to SXSW in Austin, shop in Houston, visit the crazy Prada store in Marfa, see the amazing art museums in Fort Worth, go two-stepping in Plano. I want to do and see it all. And I don't even want to limit myself to the great state of Texas. When will I ever be 26 again? Never.

{ Prada Store | Marfa, Texas }

{ Coney Island | NYC }



2. Start saving for a trip to Italy.

This may sound like a silly resolution, but it's something I've been wanting to do for a long time. And going to Italy isn't cheap, so I decided... if we start working towards it now, we'll have something to look forward to, which might make it easier to save for!

This isn't a trip that's just randomly popped up out of the blue, I've wanted to tour Italy (Milan, Rome, Tuscany, Florence, Pompeii, Vatican City) since I was young. I don't know where my love for Italy comes from, but it's been with me for a long time. If you've seen my book collection, you'll believe me. I took 4 years of Latin in High School in hopes of learning more about the culture, and also because I wanted to go into the medical field. But those ambitions quickly came to a screeching halt when I looked at the college courses I would have to take...  first up: dissecting a human body 101... hell no. Turns out fashion, art and creativity are more my thing.

Another factor has been my fear of flying. I've watched videos and documentaries, and I've read and  researched all I could about Italy because I figured my fear of flying would hinder my chances of ever exploring the country. Well, I've really been working on it over the years. And after my last trip to Minnesota, I think my fears are slowly wearing off. And it's something I'm really excited about, because I now feel confident enough to travel long distances! So, what better time to save for an awesome trip than now. Right? :)

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3. Spend more time pampering myself.

I've always been a pretty busy girl. I've played sports since I could walk (soccer, tennis, golf). Chasing boys in middle school and high school always kept me pretty busy. I worked two jobs in college and always took the maximum amount of hours I could. (This was due in part to changing my major 3 times and not wanting to be in school for 16 years.) Needless to say, I like being busy. I don't know what to do with myself when I have nothing to do. Probably because I think the line "I have absolutely nothing to do" is BS. If you think you have nothing to do - go pick up a newspaper, go check out a book on a country or subject that you know nothing about, learn how to knit, try out a new recipe. <-- See. I almost deleted all of that, but I'm leaving it to prove that I hate sitting still.

Although I still don't want to sit still for too long (read: resolution #1), I find it quite welcoming when I take the time to do things for me. Last weekend was the first time I've done this in... well I can't even remember. I felt a little under the weather last Saturday so I made a healthy breakfast while doing a hair treatment (coconut oil from roots to tips for 20 minutes). Then I popped Breakfast at Tiffany's into my laptop and watched Holly Golightly as I took a detox bath (2 cups epsom salt, hot water - soak for 20 minutes). Later, I gave myself a mani-pedi, whitened my teeth, and curled up on the couch to read a my new favorite book, Grace. Like I said, I honestly don't remember the last time I've done that. I felt amazing at the end of the day, and I know my body was thanking me.

So this year, I want to have more days like that... Or at least spend a few nights a month.





4. Build up a strong work-out regimen.  

This is on everyone's list right? I feel like a broken record saying this, not because I've ever said it before, but because every girl in the world will say this once (or 600 times) in her life.... I want my high school body back. Playing soccer in high school and running every single day was torture at the time, but when I look back at pictures, I'm like.... well damn it.

So this year, with the help of Pinterest (motivational quotes, Carrie Underwood leg workouts, and all of those little 5 minute workout things that may or may not work) I'm going to start a regimen. And I'm not going to give up. I want this year to be the year I finally get excited about buying a cute new swimsuit. The year I don't feel bad about myself when I go to a pool. The year I eat healthy and eat often instead of skipping meals to try to lose weight. I'm tired of making excuses year after year. I want to be the healthiest version of me I can be.




5. Pour my heart into my blog. 

Like I said, I changed my major a few times in college. I started out as an Apparel Merchandising major and about a year later I realized I really wanted to follow in my father and grandfather's footsteps by changing my focus to Advertising. It's something I've always loved and had a knack for, and hell, I had two great mentors in my very own family. But another year and half later I found myself sitting in the middle of library lawn, late for a class, all alone, asking myself what I was doing. I loved Advertising and all of my classes, I was getting all A's, but I didn't feel complete without fashion in my life. I ended up finishing my college career by graduating with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Apparel Merchandising. Now, I work at an amazing Advertising Agency. Pretty funny right? I always thought I was a mess, I felt like I was all over the place when it came to what I was supposed to do with my life, but looking back now, it's kind of funny. Some people aren't meant to do just one thing. And where I am now in my life, it's a perfect mix. I started this blog in the fall of 2011 when I was starting to miss the fashion world. And although I haven't been able to put much of myself into it (my first priority is and will always be my job), it's been so helpful to have.

My fashion knowledge, my style, and my creativity is something I really want to share. I may not be the most confident person in the world, but one thing I will always be 100% confident in is my style. It's uniquely me. I don't copy anyone, I don't always wear what's in style, I wear what I want to wear. I have no one to impress but myself and I do almost every single day. That's what matters.

So this year, one of my biggest resolutions is to pour myself - my heart, my soul, my creativity - into this blog. In order to do so, I anticipate a lot of late night blogging and I'm okay with that. My job is one that I absolutely cherish. Advertising isn't always easy, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I love being able to be creative every single day. I love working with a team to develop the most intriguing ideas. I love creating images for other brands, and sometimes, even the companies own brand. The more I think about it, Advertising and Fashion really do have a lot in common.





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6. Bake more.

I used to bake all the time. When I was younger I thought I wanted to go to culinary school. So much so that my sweet Grandmother took me to one in Scottsdale, Arizona so I could feel it out. We even went to a few cooking classes. And then I got my own personalized Chef jacket! Just call me Chef Jen.

But ever since I left for college, the amount of time I spent in the kitchen slowly started to decline. And I understand it's natural - with spending 6 busy years in college to now working 40 to sometimes 90 hours a week at my job - it's going to be hard. But hey, maybe staying out of the kitchen has helped my waistline. I used to make cupcakes like a madwoman. And I always had to test one to make sure it tasted okay. Duh.

This year I want to take the time to use up all of those cute cupcake wrappers in my drawer that I've been giving the pouty lip to. I want to experiment with new ingredients, make cute holiday treats for my co-workers, and actually try to make of the yummy recipes I keep pinning. I love baking, something about baking makes me feel more matronly - if that makes any sense whatsoever. And I really have missed it. I'm sure my husband has too. So here's to eating more sugar while following a super duper strict workout regimen.

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7. Put my creativity first. 

Simply put. I've been so busy that I've completely stopped sketching, drawing and painting. I own sketch pads full of designs I've envisioned, perfected and drawn out to the nines. I have so many sketches that I'm so freaking proud of that I almost sent them to Roberto Cavalli back in college. I would sketch every night before I went to bed - mainly because I would have so many great ideas float through my head in the day that I didn't want to lose them.

I've drawn since I could pick up a pencil. Just ask my parents - they'll be happy to show you hundreds of pictures. My favorite things to actually draw are letters and numbers. I love typography and most people don't know that about me.  And lastly, painting. Something about painting makes me feel so at peace. So in-tune with myself. Maybe that's why I feel so array sometimes - because it's been months since I've picked up a paintbrush.

So this year and for several years to come, I want to make damn sure I am putting aside time for me to be utterly and completely creative. In my own element. No disturbances. No iPhone, iPad or laptop in sight. Just me, my pad of paper (or canvas), and my pens and brushes. That's it. It's so simple, and so freeing.

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8. Stay true to myself.

In a world where everyone is trying to be better than the next person, it's easy to lose sight of your own path. It's so important to realize and fully understand what you, as your own person, stand for, or else it will be really easy for you to fall for anything. Your beliefs, your goals, your dreams, your attitude - are all uniquely yours and the stronger you are, the harder it will be for anyone to shake them. Everyone's path in life is different, so there is no benefit in comparing your life to anyone else's. I'm not a professional dancer, so I'm not going to try my hardest to be like one.

The biggest thing for me to overcome is comparing myself to others. I always do it. I'm pretty sure everyone does it. And I'm finally realizing it's absolutely ridiculous. For example, I hate looking at wedding stuff on pinterest or anywhere really because I always think: Dangit, her wedding was so cute. I wish I would have thought to do those flowers. Or I wish I would of decorated the tables like this. Or I wish we would of chosen a different photographer. - To be honest our photographer was the absolute pits, but that's okay! I realize how amazing and unique our wedding was. Hindsight is always 20/20 and there will always be things you'll want to change, but valuing what you DID have is what is the most important. Hell, I had a wedding in the mountains. I was fortunate enough to have an amazing family give me the wedding of my dreams. And at the end of the day, it's not about the wedding, it's about your husband and your family and the time you spend together.

I'm not a professional dancer, so I'm not going to try my hardest to be like one. I'm not going to throw away all of my money to replicate an outfit some Hollywood starlet wore because that's not my style. I want to focus on being myself, taking risks, dressing how I want to dress, living how I want to live, eating that extra piece of cake, making sure I'm not too hard on myself, and really really focus on my dreams and everything I want to accomplish.

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There it is. 
My New Years Resolutions for 2013 and a pretty personal look inside my life. 

I hope you all have an amazing year. 
And all of your resolutions come true!





2 comments:

  1. Beautiful goals. Check mine out at starsstripesandamilitarylife.blogspot.com.

    I also have a give away going on right now!

    xx-Morgan

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  2. Loved this post for so many reasons. First of all, thank you for your honesty. I think its a powerful thing to sit down and level with yourself but then to share it really increases your accountability even though sharing can be so scary! Your past 10 years sound a lot like mine; maybe that is also the power of sharing, that you find out that you're not alone! I changed my major 3 times and thought I was a failure/nutbar but I am happy with what I chose which is now to work within athletics that has always been a large part of my life. Interestingly enough, my job isn't that creative even though I have always had that other side to me so I think my blog helps me to outlet that and not ignore it. I am back on the workout train too/I want to be that healthy athlete again that I once was so if you need an encouraging word let's pass some back and forth this year! Happy 2013, very glad to have connected with you in 2012!
    Steffi
    http://inherited-jeans.blogspot.com

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